The dictionary defines "pet peeve" as: a frequent subject of complaint. Everyone has something that bugs them, even if they don't complain out loud.
One of my pet peeves us people responding to "thank you" by saying "no problem." It just sounds like they are too important to be thanked, or they minimize your gratitude. I probably wouldn't have asked them or expected them to do something that I thought would be a problem for them. For me it is off-putting. Whereas "you're welcome" is welcoming me, not pushing me away. Silly, maybe. Most pet peeves are. But nonetheless. it bugs me.
Another pet pet peeve is drivers who don't use their turn signal until they have stopped to make the turn. If they use their turn signal sooner it gives me a chance to change lanes before they stop traffic. Assuming, of course, there are multiple lanes.
And it drives me up the wall when people talk over others in a discussion. I want to hear what others have to say so I can decide what I think. When more than one person talks at once, I can't hear what both are saying. And when someone talks over me. I know I'm not being heard. It is better when each person finishes their thought before another thought gets expressed.
What are your pet peeves? Are there certain kinds of people that bug you, certain behaviors, certain events? How much do they bother you - a lot, a little? Do you voice your complaints about them? Or do you just let them slide?
Some folks take their pet peeves to the max. They turn them into attacks or arguements. For me, most of the time they aren't worth mentioning, let alone getting upset about them. How about you?
Truly negative people really bother me. They can see nothing but negativity. They have a complaint about everything. They try to argue about everything that you say. And they are always like Negative Nellies. I don't like being around them and when I have to be I just tell myself that I don't have to see everything with the dark lens like them and shut them out. And when possible, I leave their pressence.
Sometimes I'll ask a question, like "What DO you like about that?" If they have nothing positive to say, I just drop the conversation. Avoiding negativity is a healthy self-care act.
How about you? How do you deal with negative people?
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