Sunday, May 19, 2019
"HOPE can be defined as the desire for something combined with an anticipation of it happening. In short, hope is the anticipation of something" Psychology Today
It is far too easy to give up hoping for better things. People today are pummelled with bad news and negativity until hope seems like it isn't worth the effort.
But, really, what do you hope for? Hope implies some anticipation, however limited, of it manifesting in our lives, All too often our fear of being disappointed keeps us from even hoping.
We may dream, without any anticipation. Therefore we have no hope. However, without hope we are unlikely to do anything that might move us toward manifesting our dreams.
Hope is SO important for us to move forward. Giving up hope is surrender. Now is not the time to surrender. We must look at what we hope for with the eyse of one who can see the first step we must take. Open your eyes and ask what one thing you might do to make something begin to happen that you hope for.
Maybe it is simply the step of acknowleging that you want it. Maybe it is taking time to make a plan, step-by-step. Maybe it is asking someone to help.
What ever that first step is, you are worth the effort to hope.
Sunday, May 12, 2019
People don't seem to go visit anymore. When I was growing up in the fifties and sixties, Sunday afternoons usually included either visiting family or friends at their house or having them visit at ours.
My mom would fix a big Sunday dinner and everyone would gather aroung the diningroom table. Or we'd go to my grandmother's for dinner. I remember how she loved watermelon and deserts.
People didn't all have televisions and no one had smart phones. Our phones were big clunky black things, sometimes on a party line. I don't remember spending much time on the phone until I was a teenager. It was rather unusual for the phone to ring, actually.
There was always lots of chatting and laughter. Now when there are folks to dinner they can't seem to be separate from their phones. They aren't even talking on them. They are texting or playing games. I feel rather disrespected by it. There isn't as much chatting with everyone at the table and the laughter is less frequent.
And when was the last time you received a personal letter via the postal service? Email makes contacting much easier and quicker. But I miss the excitement of getting hand-written letters. It feels more personal than getting "mail" through a computer. When someone takes the time to write me a letter I feel really connected, personal, even special.
I confess I seldom write letters anymore, only email. So I'm guilty of taking the easy way. Yet I do feel less connected.
And then there is social media, certainly not personal or private, even when people seem to forget that and put all kinds of personal information on it for anyone to see. It always bothers me when people go on social media and talk about their vacation while they are away, letting the world know that their home is uninhabited and ripe for theivery. I only talk about vacations when we are back home.
Yes, technology has changed the way we do a lot of things. Sometimes that's positive and sometimes not. But it is here to stay, so we need to use it to bring us closer together rather than apart. Drop a note or a card to someone in the mail and make their day. Turn off your phones when you are visiting/dining. And invite folks to Sunday dinner for some chatter and laughter. We can have both personal and private contact as well as technology.
Sunday, May 5, 2019
Are you Serious?!? People say that when you tell them something the find hard to believe is true. But I'm asking about your demeanor. I am serious too much of the time while I'm recouperating from this injury. It is hard to keep a sense of humor when I'm in so much pain.
But even when I'm not in pain I tend to be a serious person. Oh, I usually have a sense of humor. I can laugh if something is funny. On occasion I can even be silly. But I an inhibited by my concerns about what others might think. My sense of humor is more likely to be present around people I trust - my spouse, my offspring.
When I was working I was in an environment that was very serious. I worked in male prisons. In one job I worked in a psychiatric unit in a prison. So you can see that having a sense of humor might make one vulnerable. Not a condition I wanted to be in. Just being a female authority in a male prison was vulnerable enough.
What about you? How's your sense of humor? Does it help you? How?
"Humour or humor is the tendency of experiences to provoke laughter and provide amusement. The term derives from the humoral medicine of the ancient Greeks, which taught that the balance of fluids in the human body, known as humours, controlled human health and emotion.
People of all ages and cultures respond to humour. Most people are able to experience humour—be amused, smile or laugh at something funny—and thus are considered to have a sense of humour. The hypothetical person lacking a sense of humour would likely find the behaviour inducing it to be inexplicable, strange, or even irrational. Though ultimately decided by personal taste, the extent to which a person finds something humorous depends on a host of variables, including geographical location, culture, maturity, level of education, intelligence and context." [YouTube]
What makes things funny? Check out this TedTalk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysSgG5V-R3U
Check out what is funny today. Check out when you were funny today.
Sunday, April 28, 2019
I've published poetry, short stories, even co-authored an article for a professional journal.
I thought a blog would help me get back to writing, since I'd have deadlines and I could chose subjects that interested me.
But I'm now failing to meet the deadlines, missed last Wednesday' all together. I've been over dependent on YouTube to "speak" for me.
It is probably related to this medical issue of pain after my fall in March. There has been a lot of severe pain and multible medical appointments, physical therapy, and trips to the drug store.
So that might be a reason, but not really an excuse. I've had time to play games on FaceBook that I could have used writing.
I need to re-evaluate my desire to write and make some decisions. For now, I'm going to give up the Wednesday post and, hopefully, focus on one post a week.
What do you think? Got any ideas for post topics? Would appreciate your feedback. What would you like to know more about?
Sunday, April 21, 2019
We need, at the very least, hope that positive change can happen, hope that it will happen, hope that what we each do will make a positive difference. Without hope we will stop doing anything to help that change before we even begin. What specific change do you hope for? Keep that hope alive. Nurture that hope. Fix the image of that change in your mind and use your hope to keep you going.
The next thing you need is faith. You must have faith that you can create that change. You must believe in yourself and believe in the change you want to make. Faith can keep you hope alive and keep you on task toward the change you want to make. And you need faith in others to work toward positive change. On your own, without the help of others, your power to change the world is quite limited. You need faith in those who join you in your quest for change Having faith in each other makes great things happen.
And under-girding it all is Love. Love must be the reason for change. Love for yourself and for others is imperative for positive change. It must be the reason for your desire for change. Love will power you through. Without love it is too easy to give up. Know what you care about and why you want to make change happen. When you love is strong and evidenced by others your desire for positive change will be joined by the love of others to make things happen.
So what do you love enough to make a difference? What makes you ache when you experience it? Do you love those who have lost their home, those who have fallen into addictions, those who are trapped in poverty? Those who are children separated from thier parents by government policies? Those who are maimed by war? Those who greive the loss of family member to war? Those who live on the streets or homeless camps? Those who are preyed upon by bullies?
There is no end of causes you might care about because. Watch the news, read the papers and magazine, listen to politicians, look around you in your city. Where is your heart drawn to make positive change to begin to resolve them?
What beginning steps can yoiu do to begin the change? When will you begin? Be sure to use your hope to clarify the change you want to see. Have faith that you can help make that change. And keep love for others powering your choices.
What will you do?
Wednesday, April 17, 2019
We see so many news items about meanness, cruelty, disrespect, war, hatred, that it seems like the whole world is hopeless..
So, today let's look for and create kindness. Do something to help someone who needs it. Make this a day of random acts of kindness.
Here is a video to inspire you:
Tell us what you can do to make the world a world of kindness.
Sunday, April 14, 2019
It's Sunday and I don't have a post ready. This is happening far too often. Life is getting in my way of writing.
What gets in your way of doing what you want? Maybe you want to save money, or learn a new skill, or work on a project that you've started but never finished. Or maybe there are things you think you should do, but never have gotten around to doing it.
Why do we let things get in our way. I've always thought that if you really wanted to do something you'd find a way to do it, you'd prioritize it. But then something gets in the way. Life can put things in our path that have to be dealt with then and there. And that gets us off course.
My reason is the recovery from my fall. There are doctor's appointments, physical therapy, pain, need for rest. It is amazing how much energy pain takes.
And it's not like I don't have time. I do. I just find that once I'm off track I forget to get back on track.
So I'm sitting here looking at my to-do list and it doesn't have blog post on it! I need a cattle prod, I guess.
So I'm curious. What gets in your way? And how do you get youself back on track? Or are you one of those folks who never gets side-tracted?